Home And Family

How does "happy family" sound right now?

Well it probably sounds far from reality. I know the bad children behavior routine: tantrums, defiant behavior, tears, screaming, no time for yourself, for your husband/wife, stress… the list never ends.

It’s hard to accept we need help because as parents, we think it should be "natural" to be good parents. Well no, it’s definitely not that easy to raise kids because understanding children is something we’ve lost as adults. Do you remember what you were feeling and thinking at age 7?

"Am I a bad parent?". Just stop asking. That’s not the point because there is not just one way of parenting. Your kid is unique and you’re trying your best to make him feel happy and loved. But HOW is another issue! We’re not asked to know psychology or to study a manual to avoid bad children behavior when we become parents so we act based on what we know You see? Not your fault.

BUT what is sure is that bad children behavior can be stopped. And if you don’t change anything in how you communicate with your child, NOTHING is going to change. And it might get worse as your child grows up. That’s what worried me and pushed me to make significant changes in my way of parenting. I used to say "Time will make her change, soon she’ll not be a kid anymore and things will get much better" but that’s an illusion. It can get worse. That’s reality. But in this reality, you can make that change happen because people like you and I, parents, therapists, worked on the issue before us and believe me or not, this is priceless, because our own life and our kid’s are priceless.

I’d doing this because I want to bring a message of hope to all the people who, like me, have been struggling with their kids’ behavior for too long. Now I know things can change.

Which parenting method should I choose?

Choosing a parenting method shouldn’t be complicated but many exist and it can be hard to choose, especially because each method is presented and explained by their author on a long website page and you can only figure out if it’s appropriate for your situation when you’re done reading everything!

Also, it’s important to stay aware that bad children behavior is something that is lived differently by each family and the different methods are not meant for the same kind of children. So even if somebody else might have the solution you need to stop your child’s behavior problems, you’re the one who knows your child, his habits, tantrums, words…